I would say that I communicate differently everyday in my life. When I am at work, I am a social worker and with that I have 3 hats that I wear. We are taught in training that we have to role play and switched hats accordingly in this field. There is the tough hat that lets the individual know that you are not playing with them and there will be consequences taken if certain things are not done. Then there is there is the nice hat. I try to wear this hat more than the other two. The nice hat is when I give it my all and go the extra mile to help the families. Then there is the hat that has the best interest for the child. The advocate hat, meaning keeping the child best interest at heart and at the same time in a safe environment. That includes removing them from their homes if I have too.
When I am around my friends, I can say that I
communicate differently from when I am at work.
I can be myself and say whatever I want to say. I do not have to think about what I am saying
and worry about the tone and the effects of what I say. When I am with my husband and kids, I
communicate differently as well. There
are just certain things that I would not say around my husband that I say to my
friends. With my children, I always try
to be positive even when I am upset with them.
They can feel the nonverbal body language. Sometimes I do not have to say one world and
they k now that they are in trouble.
Thinking about this week topic made me look deep
inside myself. At first I thought that
maybe I am bi-polar…….LOL But the fact
is we all communicate on a daily basis about how we communicate is based on who
you are and maybe where you are at.
I think when it comes to non-verbal communication, children and mothers understand themselves more than fathers and children. This is what I discovered from my family, my children understand my verbal cues more than they do with their father's. What is the experience like in your family?
ReplyDeleteWell, my children are more zoomed in to their dad when he gives them that look. I am the parent that they think they can get over. However when I get quite and do not respond to them, they know that I am really mad.
ReplyDeleteLavonda, you are right we do wear many hats when working with families. Also being a parent children comes to understand our non verbal gestures quicker that our verbal one. With my parents if they gave you the "eye" you know what was going to happen next. Thanks for sharing.
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